The secret on how to last longer in bed for men has got everything to do with what you perceive as a part of your sex life. If it is all about getting in the sheets and getting on with it then you will surely ejaculate faster as the senses have not been aroused enough. On the other hand those who rejoice in the pleasures of stimulation without penetration and devote a good amount of time to foreplay have been found to be stronger in controlling their urges to ejaculate faster.
The next time you get in bed and are worried about coming out too fast try to slow down the pace of love making by stimulating your woman more rather than thinking of your desires. This alone is a strong motivator to stop the urge of ejaculation right in the belly. Next, you can ask her to give you an oral that should not stimulate ejaculation. Together this give and take system shall ensure that you add a goof 10 to 15 minutes into your love making scenes.